Adopted siblings dating
While keeping siblings together is important, at times that togetherness can hinder their growth as individuals I used to be righteous, exclaiming the need to keep displaced siblings together.As a child protection caseworker in the 1980’s finding foster homes that would take sibling groups was one of my greatest challenges.Honestly, she's still a virgin which is a bit rare for teens (I also teach high school).She's started to date a boy she really loves and I imagine in the future that sex will come up.You get permission from the agency for whatever kind of arrangement they want to set up. She will probably be driving by herself by the time she is 17 so will renegotiate rules then.We haven't had any experience with that yet, though. I monitor the computer with a keystroke recording system (we had a lot of trust issue violations in the beginning but now things are great), so I know what websites she's visiting and who she's talking to.When I had to separate children from their birth parents I knew it had to be done; there was seldom any real choice in the matter.
I really think that she likes the strictness because it gives her a chance to really get to know a boy and if she's uncomfortable she can just put it on me how strict I am.
Our agency requires us to kind of make a plan for dating.
The kids have to be trustworthy, loyal, brave, etc etc! She can do group dating (movies, etc.) but I meet the kids. She is taking driver's ed and still has to pass to get her permit.
My adopted dad had 2 sons that I didn t met until I was 16.
I wasn t raised with them and I never lived with my adopted brothers .
While I hope she waits, I am also realistic and will make sure she has birth control. They go to different high schools and he lives about 30 minutes away so I can somewhat monitor when they see each other. My advice is just to be really involved and to make sure they have a lot of activities.